RIP Anthony John Ralph, 1939–2018

We had the funeral service for my Dad today. Private family event, plain coffin, no religious ceremony, no flowers, no public announcement, as he’d requested.

Coffin was brought in to “Oh Didn’t He Ramble” performed by Jelly Roll Morton. Curtain closed to “Toot Toot Tootsie Goodbye” by Spike Jones & His City Slickers. 🙂

Ashes will be returned to us in a few days. (Both my parents wanted a green burial, but that wasn’t a viable option, so cremation instead.)

Still have some legal and financial things to sort out, but it’s closure of sorts.

We went to one of Dad’s favourite restaurants afterwards and shared stories.

I was reminded today why I’m glad I stopped being a system administrator for Windows devices.

The UI may change, but when things go wrong the WTF is just the same.

Of course, Windows 10 itself could be considered a WTF. Which is a bit unfair, as both Windows 8 and Windows Vista were considerably worse in my experience.

For the record, my primary OS these days is macOS. (I also have a virtual machine running Windows 10 for a few apps I occasionally need.) And macOS does have some WTF of its own, fewer in number and different in kind but still occasionally frustrating.

I downloaded my Facebook data just now

There’s not a lot in there, but then that’s not a huge surprise considering:

  • My relatively low rate of posting.

  • No games or apps.

  • Only a few photos and videos.

  • Locked my profile the heck down.

I had a previous FB profile from 2007 until 2015, when I nuked it. I reluctantly came back in 2016 because I’d lost touch with a lot of people. But now I think it’s time to go and not come back, ever. Besides all the creepy and shady stuff that has come out in the last year or so, it’s the fact that I need an adblocker plus FB Purity just to make the site palatable enough to visit. (Desktop browser only, no mobile apps.)

I Left LinkedIn

  • They do the download of your data in two separate parts, a summary version followed by the full data.

  • They don’t try too much to guilt-trip you into staying.

  • They lost me because they broke the one part (groups) that I actually found useful, and their email notifications haven’t worked in years.

  • On the plus side, at least they’re not as creepy as Facebook. (At least, not that I’m aware of… yet.)

Goodbye to 2018, and to my Dad

So 2018 is now in the rear-view mirror—and good riddance to it. While I did make some progress on personal stuff last year, it was overshadowed by my Dad’s terminal illness and the stress and strain of caring for him.

He passed away peacefully in the early hours of the 22nd December, at home with his family around him, as he had wished.

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